The Courage to Be Disliked Review

E-Book, 289 Pages
Non Fiction/ Psychology
By: Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga
Rating: 🌟 1/2

“Do Not Live to Satisfy the Expectations of Others”

I came upon this book on a post while I was going through my social media and I liked the name and decided to read it at one point and the experience was not as good as I wanted it to be. The book discusses Adlerian psychology and it is written as a conversation between a young man and a philosopher and that’s where things started going wrong.

I think the book could have been a million times better if it was written normally and not like a conversation/ debate because it was so cringy, over the top and no one talk like that in real life. The author kept going around and around the same concept without expanding it well which made this tiresome to go through.

There was a point very early in the book where the authors were trying to explore the main idea in the book by giving a medical example. They said that suppose you are with fever and cold and when you went to the doctor he told you the reason for that was because you weren’t dressed well when you went out. That would make you unsatisfied because you want to get rid of the symptoms by any measures necessary. At that -very early- point I knew it would be a tough ride because actually knowing the cause is very important thing in medicine and we always try to find the root cause and treat it rather than treat symptoms. The authors rely on this philosophy that the past does not matter and I have to disagree. There was a lot of talk about how trauma does not exist and about victim blaming that did not click well with me and with many people from all the reviews that I have seen.

I can’t deny that there were some interesting ideas that made me stop and think about them and then there are some outdated things that I did study in neuroscience but once again, the way the info was presented made it even harder to digest and accept.

Summary: Unfortunately this was not life-changing or even as intriguing as I wanted it to be. There are two main problems: The first one is that the philosophy itself is outdated and denies many important things that science proved (Always team science here) and the second one is that it was written in the most condescending way ever which make it even harder to go through. Overall, I don’t recommend this book for anyone willing to learn more about this Adlerian psychology.

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